2. He has a new hobby
Now, please don’t get us wrong. It is not a bad thing or one of the signs your spouse doesn’t love you if he gets a new hobby. We don’t want to say that. We support this, and having a nice pastime is beneficial for anyone. But we want to discuss a little bit about priorities and what they mean.
At the beginning of your relationship, you used to be your husband’s top priority. He wanted to spend every second he got with you, and you really enjoyed that. He wanted to be present at every minor event, and whenever he did something, he wanted you to be there. Nice, right?
This indeed sounds like a fulfilling relationship for some; maybe others would like more space, but the idea of priority is still there. No matter the approach, you felt that you played an important role in the life of your spouse.
If he gets a new hobby in which he invests all of his time, this might be one of the signs your spouse doesn’t love you anymore. And when we say he invests all of his time, we truly mean that. If this new hobby makes you feel like you don’t exist anymore in his life, then everything is clear.
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Wow , Whoa
Other signs: Spouse would prefer to sit on a separate chair then on a couch together.
Spouse spends an inordinate amount of time talking to friends or family on the phone in
hushed tones.
Spouse seems to have a need to speak or eat meals with other people without you
Spouse wants to do more and more alone
Spouse wants to sleep in a separate bed for non-medical reasons
Guess I don’t love me spouse since I sit in a separate chair. 26years in and never been an issue.
What if the roles are reversed? Are the feelings the same. Please let me know.
Yes, my ex wife just wasn’t interested in me at all. After our second child we seem to grow farther apart. She wasn’t near the same person I married years before and was always finding reason to argue or put me down for anything I did. I know we are taught as men to be strong. I stayed in tears. Then she tells me she wants more and it’s over!
These aren’t signs he OR SHE doesn’t love you anymore! These are signed you’ve been married for quite awhile and need not be fake or worried that your spouse is even questioning something so stupid. Please grow up, this teen age gossips articles are even below your publication.
what about the HER signs this doesn’t just work one way?
Why is it ALWAYS HE??????
STOP making things like this all about the man! The woman plays a huge role in keeping the love, relationship, and romance alive and well! What role does the woman play in driving her spouse away…that is a better question!
I don’t believe this is true in every case. I joined a church when I was 18 and was the perfect wife and he took advantage of that. Not until I was in my mid-twenties did I find out he was cheating on me the entire time. I would work full time, take care of all the bills, never question his paycheck, never ask for a portion of his although he would help out “sometimes”. I paid the rent, cell phones, utilities, groceries, front the vacations twice a year, weekend outings, but our kid (1 at the time) clothes, etc. Come to find out, he had a whole other cell phone in order to have these other relationships. Because I was taught to cater and serve my husband, I never snooped nor questioned him. I even served him the way he liked in the bedroom even though it was against my religious beliefs. He still went out there not only cheating but with people he went to school with and whom literally lived local to us which I feel is the most disrespectful thing you can do. So everyone in our circle knew about it but me. We lived in the town he was born and raised in. My heart hurt so much, it tore our marriage apart. He promised to stop when we found out we were pregnant with twins. What did he do? Cheat on me while I was pregnant with them. I lost one of them at 30 weeks gestation. When I got home, he had moved a whole other woman into our home and put our son into the living room because “she had nowhere to go” I could not even mourn the deat of our daughter in peace, SMH. As it turns out, she was smoking meth in our home and we anded up having to kick her out. On top of that, she was stealing my pain medication (I had a cesarian) along with the post-partem meds the prescribed me. I am not so sure he wasn’t screwing her as well. (She was 17 at the time, he was 29. I still belong to my church and unfortunately, we are still together. My son (the twin who survived) is now 18 and just graduated from High School and Community College where he was a part of a Dual enrollment program has just gone off to a very Prominent Ivy League HBCU and is thriving. Unfortunately, my oldest (27) is serving a 23-year prison sentence for manslaughter. My two youngest are doing exceptionally well. My high Schooler is playing Flag Football with a very famous High School and has already toured several states. She also runs track and depending on who gives her a scholarship first also wants to play professionally. I fell as if I would have left early on, my oldest would not be where he is at. SO in closing, I feel bad that women/people are always making it all about the man but unfortunately, I didn’t seem to have any luck in the department and I made it my goal and life to be a kind, understanding, loving, faithful wife who would always be there for my husband so my family would thrive and succeed in this world but I was just hurt and taken advantage of. I went to school and became a Paralegal and picked up the slack when my husband failed to provide for us, which was more often than not. I suffered abuse and my children had to endure anguish and confusion and most times I HATE MYSELF FOR IT. I am sorry for a lot of men because I see a lot of women are manipulative and ungrateful for a good man but I guess those are the cards we are dealt.
You seem like a very strong and faithful woman.
I’m so sorry for what happened to your eldest child, and the one you lost.
Maybe the great success of your other kids had a lot to do with the faith and strength they saw in you. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.
Damn… sorry there Ms. Mrs. …. Your significant other is a jerk. I hate guys like this. Sad story for you. I guess you just kinda keep plugging along , till the End… you can pray for whatever, or meditate , or just go for good self care …. Life is just ….. not easy …. Is my conclusion … stay close to the child who has success in the ivy school? That is exciting and nice? Other than That, I have no advice.Good Luck Hun.
I agree
When I got married to my wife a couple of years ago, we were wid. All of a sudden, I am being told that I must be religious in order to consumate. What’s with the sudden change?
Why is so negatively one sided? Women cheat and become equally distant, even more so in this day and age. “Technology” has a massive influence on creating the gap.
nothing yet
Love is a choice, it is action, it is a verb. We take the example of John 3:16, for God so LOVED the world that he GAVE his only begotten son… It is “giving” so when a man and a woman get married, they are GIVING one to the other. Feelings do not come into play. Yes, we can be attracted to our mate by feelings, but LOVE is a conscious commitment. If love depended on feelings, then, when hard times come, and the physical part dwindles away, couples would fall apart, but with a true LOVE commitment, GOD is in the center of the relationship, without GOD, the equation turns to just plain FIRE, and when the fire goes out, all that remains are ashes,
Beautiful, very well written.
AMEN !
Amen I often say ” If we lived according to 1:Corinthians 13 this world would be a much better place married or not . Relationships are work , hard work . People tend to put resaons before the failures . I say as long as there is no abuse there is hope. People believe LOVE is just a heart thing . God is amazing . Jesus new He said Love God and your neighbor , as yourself . If we genuinely have that how can we stop FALLING out of ? Easy question the necessary tools were not used to fight where we have the power to fight . I can go on all day . The world today is as in the days of Noah , everything bad increasing especially in America . In other Countires people marry or a bethrowed an they make it . They do because they have a fear even of a God that isnt the God of Abraham . Respect , Communication , so many other necessary ways of living . That Corinthians chapter is all . For God so loved the world is something He did for us . Some people dont know how , cant or refuse to do the same for others. smh
Your partner doesn’t truthfully apologize.ask them later
It’s over
How about the wife ‘s part of cheating. Not only men cheat
Cuz the guy cheats more than a woman does
I wish my mind thinking I love are married around 60 year old beautiful lady
In today’s mind set. Women have been brainwashed to believe that men should do everything and that it’s always the man’s fault. Why? Because they believe what all the big tv women say or what happened to their friends. Here’s what I’m going to say about this.. STOP AND LOOK AT THE WHOLE PICTURE!!! THE WHOLE PICTURE not just what you want to see. Really take a step back and look at your life history. Most people won’t because they don’t want to see that they were wrong!! Men are simple. We love the same things that women do but we don’t ask for it!!!! We don’t asked to be touched or kissed every morning or ask for hug we just do it. That what we expect from our partners as well. When we have to ask for it that generally means your not showing us attention.. Learn what drives your partner passion and actually give a care when they asked to spend time with you!! Works both ways!!! But anyways it’s not always the man’s fault, just think about it ladies when your man seems distant.
Yes, my ex wife just wasn’t interested in me at all. After our second child we seem to grow farther apart. She wasn’t near the same person I married years before and was always finding reason to argue or put me down for anything I did. I know we are taught as men to be strong. I stayed in tears. Then she tells me she wants more and it’s over!
So here’s my deliemma and I’d be interested in everyone’s input.
Happily married for 13 years. And all of a sudden I did have a moment where I was invited to hang out with my coworkers for a few nights out for celebration of birthdays. It was great I was able to go dancing have a few drinks and enjoy just having a girl’s night out. I was the first one to leave bc I promised my husband I wouldn’t be home late. After that it was like everything fell apart. He started to accuse me of cheating (which nothing happen I was just with my coworkers). Which let also say when I asked him if he was cool with me going out (out of respect) he never said or did anything and told me it was fine. I asked 3x before the date to be sure he was good and Everytime it was fine. I get back and he then starts arguing with me, accusing me and it’s like everything just blew up. Few days later apparently my past is now important and I’ll be honest I was no angel when I was younger but we all go through things. I’m not the same person I was before I was with my husband I got my self done right. well now my past is what he uses against me and he tells me he can’t see me like before and that this is all my fault I should have never told him about my past and now it’s impacting our daily lives together. We don’t talk, we can’t love each other like before bc he’s always telling me he looks at me and says he’s disgusted and that he wants nothing to do with me. Im a strong believer if things don’t go right then it’s best to fix them. This isn’t getting fix. I offered couples therapy, nope he refuses. So then I offered the divorce, he doesn’t want a divorce bc he still loves me. I’m so confused with life I don’t want to be without him but I’m not happy and neither is he. So what now, yes we have kids together but Ive handle things for a long time. Bills, groceries, fun trips etc. I dont see it being a challenge for me to beba single mom you know it’s due able. Thoughts
Sounds like that’s what my wife is doing.
These are LITERALLY lamest things to use against somebody. Maybe, just maybe they already tried to tell you that they’re losing interest, but instead of looking in the mirror you continued on the same path.
This victim mentality is the biggest problem. Relationships are a two way street turned into one, not one way and the other was snatched along the way. If there’s no real compromise and consistency, then one or other will sway away.
YES! Females are equally guilty or even worse, because they weaponize what they know about their partners against them. This isn’t an attack, but this is a large reason why from a man point of view we shut down. Never stopped caring or loving, but tired of the lack of willingness to understand.
I am a woman…that has been cheated on and when there are whores that will undress without being asked just because they are too stupid to go to work. they offer themselves for dope and money to men that they know are taken and they flat-out disrespect you along with your man. cheaters should not even tell a real woman that he loves her or have a good woman period. If a man disrespects his woman over trash, then trash is what he deserves. The same goes the other way. if u can’t treat a good partner with respect, then u don’t deserve a good partner you deserve trash… everything you do in this life is a choice and actions do speak loud and clear. These disorders that a lot of people have are doing badly to their partners and getting away with it. disordered people know exactly what they are doing and believe that they are not doing anything wrong. but go into a rage at you if you confront them just to shut you up because they don’t want to hear about their wrongdoings. they will never be accountable or tell you the truth. there needs to be classes on how to spot these people. their main objective is to destroy their partner and the only crime their partner has done is loving them and always being there for them. the more they get away with their evil doings the more they will do it to you or the next person. don’t be scared, call them out. Videotape their evil actions and play it for them. if you act ugly, I think hiding it from the general population is wrong. Treat your partner badly behind closed doors act like you’re a good person to everyone else and play the victim when there’s no way in hell, you’re the victim but spread your lies and half-truths about your partner so they only buy into the one PLAYING the victim. If only people knew, but you don’t and don’t care until it happens to you. get educated people… These Narcissistic Psychopaths and Sociopaths need to be stopped. And you don’t have just a Narcissist or just a Psychopath or just a Sociopath, they all go together. you don’t have one or the other. Psychopaths are born into. Sociopaths are triggered. But they all go together and get away with murder. More like silent murder, where they tear down a good person and murder their self-esteem, spirit, and soul. Normal people cannot wrap their brains around how someone could really be this evil.