Lie #1: “If I don’t love my spouse any longer, I should get a divorce.”
It’s a sad thing to lose love in marriage. But that’s the thing. A lot of people who come to the conclusion that they no longer love their spouses are actually wrong. They don’t look in the right direction. Love changes with time, going through different stages and maturing.
While you may think the love is gone and that you’re experiencing a loss, this can teach you to access a deeper love—the love of God Himself. That love is kind and patient, and, as 1 Corinthians 13 says, it never fails. It even cares for its enemies.
When love for each other dies in a marriage, the couple can embrace a new stage, which can be one of the most exciting adventures of their lives: the one where they learn how to love with God’s love.
I’ve been married 57 years to the love of my life. We met on a blind dinner date. Why does my marriage work? I make the major decisions with her approval. One person is dominant in a marriage. It could be either. Some people are good at decision making while others are not. She was and still is “my dream girl.” We are now in our 80’s and I’d remarry her again in an instant. She was so cute my parents thought she was marrying me for my money, not that I had so much. I’m a strong personality and she is laid back. Knowing yourself is the best way to find a mate. Don’t overlook the others faults or your own. Everyone has them and if they are glaring don’t fool yourself into believing that it will work out. People don’t change. Always remember the reasons you married and appreciate one another. She was and still is my dream girl!
First I must congratulate you and your wife on your union , 57 years is a blessing to grow with someone you truly love. . I been with my spouse almost 30 years and marriage isn’t easy but we both learn to compromise if a problem arise. Just last year in a social media group I was asked what if I find out after all these years together with my spouse and I find out there was infidelity. I was ask would I stay in the marriage or would I dissolve the marriage . What would you do if you were in that situation, would you leave the 57 years in the past or would you fight for your marriage.