Have you ever wondered what are the cruel things women do to their partners even if they do not realize it?
A lot of people hyperfocus on what men have done to their partners, especially focusing on cheating, yet not a lot of people pay attention to the cruel things women do to their partners as well. This is not to say that either gender is more prone to being cruel to their partner, as this is a thing that every human is capable of, but rather that each of us can do a lot of bad and even cruel things to those we love, even if we are not aware of the things we do.
Sometimes, people are aware of what they are doing to their partners and just do not care about the anguish they are causing because they believe that the end justifies the means. What’s more, men generally end up not complaining about the things that they find cruel and annoying to their partners because they do not want to be seen as complaining. It is impossible, however, to not be bothered by certain things.
To help you understand how your partner’s mind works and how certain things you do may end up upsetting them, we have gathered some of the cruel things women do to their partners as mentioned by men who found them upsetting.
Have you ever heard of these cruel things women do to their partners? Have you ever done any of these cruel things women do without even realizing it? Do you agree that these actions are cruel? Let us know your opinion in the comments!
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Yeah, maybe someone who is 16
It depens on the individuals. It may seem 15 yr old behavior, but some never seem to grow up.
I wholeheartedly agree.
What if these men are drawn to women with the same habits 👀
Well it’s often said that women grow old but never grow up. Especially in the gynoceteic matiercharchy worshipped now.
I’ve seen women of nearly all ages do this stuff.
I will never trust a woman again just because of this bad character trait most of them have. I’m not saying that all women are cheaters, but literally all the women that I’ve ever dated or been married to have cheated. Some were ever so sneaky and some so obvious that they just didn’t care what I thought. And all of them have lied through their teeth to my face about it and denied it. Never again. The sad part is that once you have a long string of bad women you never can get full trust in anyone who may turn out to be faithful. But I’ve never seen it. Even some of my best friends wives have hit on me and one of my own brothers wives wanted to run away with me. They just show what kind of scum they really are.
Delmar whenever a consistent theme keeps showing up in one’s life, that person has to look at him or herself. Admitting that all or most women are not to be trusted, keeps one from looking at himself while be being the constant in every situation. Were you a pushover? Did you see clear boundaries in your relationships? Why did they feel like you were the one to do that to? Sounds like some therapy may help to get you to a deeper understanding of self. Not sure what your relationship was like with your parents, but you may have picked up some unhealthy habits. We typically attract who we are, and our mates become a reflection of us. When we don’t wish to deal with that reflection, we turn away from it and blame others. Be well. Do the inner work. And then will you attack differently.
Wait you are saying that women cheating on him and being sluts is his fault. You are delusional. Have had the same problem. With two wives. Not saying I’m perfect, far from it. Seems like when life is not all a bunch of roses they are very quick to find someone else instead of themselves trying to make things better no matter what the problem is. Emotional, physical or financial.
Well said
Always the guys fault..
Even the worst of female criminals blame a guy.
Long before any of us existed, the French had it right, i.e.,
“Cherchez la femme”
See there. Woman says it’s your fault
Stay away from American women
Quit meeting women in bars. They are the worst.
So true.
Maybe you should look at the kind of women you have attached yourself too. They maybe different women but all the same personality.
So true Dawn! It’s all about personality! 👍🏼👍🏼
Really Bella. You’re the consummate victim
Usually. A “quick” love affair is better than none maybe.
Have you ever thought you may be subconsciously choosing women that are unhealthy for you?
Many of these traits I dont have. Don’t hate all women. Not all women are like this. My husband has a few of these traits listed in the article. Lol.
LOL. Should say stop simping because you all are and always displace your evil onto them like you are now.
My husband has some of those traits also, it’s not just women. He is older now and more settled. But when he was young, he had those traits.
Your attracted to the same type of woman, I did the same. I deliberately started dating guys that were NOT like my ex and have had better success
Terrible dude. You’re the reason why I hate simps worse. These are normal traits that God ingrained from His evil image. You’re a fool if you don’t realize that. The hypergamy is real and you will be rested the same eventually as that is what they are. They ARE all the same and need to treat you simps as the stupid but dangerous enemy you are to men and our mental health. You don’t even know the simpademic is rela and spreading.
what a pity your pain; but you have only found bad women; You would have to analyze your history to see if you can actually be trusted; such for that
Great another simp or misandrists he worships trying to promote the unicorn of a good woman exist. LOL! Not chasing that myth any more.
Unconscious thoughts becomes conscience actions before you know you’re saying cruel things as well as speaking them. Comparing someone to fantasy memories of bygone times that seem dream like now. The past can be seen different, the bad can be seen as good if you think of them with fondness.
That’s why you need to find a woman of God who believes that marriage is a sacred bond between a man and a woman representing the love that God has for all of us. A woman who sees you as God’s precious son given to her to help her grow in love and spirit. The love between husband and wife is the only love that cannot be shared. It is destroyed when it is shared. The love of children on the other hand can be shared in other words parents can love many children but not many wives and that’s the way God designed and that’s the only way it can flourish. This world is just preparation for the next, and in the next world love is the air we breathe. Your life will be good or bad not depending on which church you went to but how many people you love with the love of God not a selfish self-centered love.
Statistics don’t lie. Women of God are the WORSE at the practice of these traits. Why I’ve concluded that God is evil and His female followers are just as so
Thank you for the only response which described our relationships with others – especially our spouses – as reflections and extensions of our relationship with God. Peace and blessings!
That goes both ways. Husbands are commanded to LOVE their wives. My husband, like many so-called “Christian” men, has abused me verbally, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, and physically on rare occasion. [I got arrested for hitting back ONCE after he hit me several times!] He says I have to “obey” his every unreasonable whim. I’m not allowed to defend myself and he says that I will go to hell if I don’t forgive him for repeatedly cheating and committing other sins against god as well as me. [God cannot forgive an uncontrite heart.] Religion is a tool for men to oppress women. A true man or woman of God would not abuse their spouse.
most of us inherit our relationship habits from how we were raised…it’s most likely a habit or perception or behavior you adopted/learned when you were young..most of us repeat the same pattern over and over until we make a conscious effort to change…and this is very difficult to do..
Look at all the misandrists displacing their evil onto you as if you’re the problem and need the therapy. All to rationalized it as being normal and you’re the mentally ill. They’re evil as God designed them in His image. Don’t blame you as they’re not trustworthy in their hate and sexist bigotry and warfare.
So true 1000 times over
I met my wife in church—31 years now.
Delmar, get yourself a “real” dog. Or maybe a motorcycle. You never see a motorcycle outside of a psychiatrist office.
Men are the same too…Don’t judged
Wow, a lot of woman hit on you. All of your wives have cheated on you??
It’s easy to blame others for your own faults. It seems weird that this has happened over and over again. Have you ever taken responsibility?
By the way, not all women are scum, just like some men are.
For most men we are territorial to the max. And our woman we chose to spend our life with we allow in the inner circle of our heart. If she flirts or is abnormally friendly with other men then she is not only testing the waters, but she has demonstrated she has already disconnected from her man in her heart. If she shows that kind of routine hugging, kissing, or just extended arm and arm moments with male friends, know this is a RED FLAG for 99% of the men out there. Women will just pass it off as you are just insecure, while the truth is you are territorial and have put up boundaries that you set in you own heart to prevent pain and insecurity. If you date someone who is prone to this and you are even the least bit uncomfortable, its time to put her in the friend zone and leave her alone. She will only hurt you in the long run. No woman is worth that.
I know women that flirt all the time just as a game or a way of life.
And I know men who think every woman who smiles is flirting. A smile is the response of an individual with a happy spirit. Get over yourself.
Yesssss!!!!! Whatever happened to bumping into someone at the grocery store? Or talking to someone on a walk? Alcohol is an icebreaker, but it also lets your inhibitions go and it’s a long-term depressant. If you’re going to base a relationship off of a first impression that involved alcohol, and usually sex, chances are sexual will expedite certain. aspects of the relationship and you’ll basically pass going and collect 200. But, when you skip over all of those things, you are missing out on a whole big part of that person. Think about it. People used to wait their entire lives or until marriage before they had sex lol I’m at the point now where I know where I stack it in the bedroom, but I don’t need anymore nachos in my belt lol I don’t have a mental connection with someone I can’t even converse with them. If I don’t see something in their eyes, I walk away. It’s so crazy because you can either embrace trauma and bad experiences and turn them into a positive by looking at the big picture or you can just get over one person by getting old under another, and chances are you in for a very toxic relationship full of turmoil. I’m such an intense person that it would definitely take a very strong person to match my soul… but like Aristotle said, love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies….😉
That’s what [most] MEN do. It’s less common with women. Men often flirt and outright cheat with other women and expect their wives to suffer in silence.
Ignoring a man will only drive him away. Once you start that process and he is annoyed with your head game, you will lose him. And rightly so. No man wants to be ghosted and treated like he is low on your priority list. If you are in a relationship then you are part of your team. And it is to both party’s benefit that each make the other their priority. There is an old saying, “If you love your spouse you love yourself.” I know that some men are cheaters, as are some women. And I’m not saying that you need to give anymore attention to that one. But head games on your spouse will only back fire on you and you will just drive them away. Women have their games, but men after years of trial and error learn women who play like that are just immature and aren’t worth the time or money to invest in.
My husband had a few girlfriends like that before we met, and I had at least 1 boyfriend. I can’t say more tan 1 because I don’t if any others cheated and I wouldn’t say they treated me badly. Anyway, my husband and I had just over 37 years together before his death almost 2 years ago. I’m happy to say those women didn’t destroy his ability to trust and neither of us cheated in all the years we were together, nor did I play mind games, don’t like them & he wouldn’t have put up with it if I had.
I’m so sorry you have been hurt in your relationships! That is so very sad!
Not all women are like that! I was married to my husband for over 40 years, until his death in 2020.
I believe that marriage vows are sacred! I have been been called old fashioned…and in some ways, I guess I am!
I don’t believe in lying or cheating either!
Today’s relationships baffle me, but so did “open marriages!” Why bother to marry at all, if you want to be with other people?
I’m not saying divorce or break ups are easy, but they seem to be for some people!
I am, just now looking to start dating again…something I haven’t done since I was 16 and truthfully, I am scared to death!
Hopefully, you will find the right one and be willing to open your heart again!
After 40yrs of marriage my husband has described certain phrases as me speaking “wife”. Like me saying I’m hot instead of just saying “please turn on the ac”.
Sometimes I just need to vent but instead of just hearing me out he frustratingly tries to “Fix things”, it’s just him speaking husband. As one gets older those childish games of making one another jealous or not answering phone calls are just too exhausting. Good luck finding Mrs. Right, I’m sure she’s out there for you.
my wife married me because I liked to talk. Then she started to shut me down/up. I took up hobbies that were away from the house. Bought a motorcycle, made new friends, went to the races, AGAIN…. Barber Motorsports Park is AWESOME. See you in May…. with many other dudes
These issues re all games ,only suffered by the immature.
I always enjoy your site and this article about women is very informative and a good guide to less experienced men.
There is one thing men should be aware of. We guys are supposed to be the stronger ones. However, men suffer more from a lost relationship than women. Men take this very personally and hard. They won´t talk with other men about this. They suffer in private and it takes a while for them to get back into the dating game of fear it may happen again.
Yeah it’s ok for her to think about other men or even flirt with them but if you did it they would think it’s wrong and hold it against you! And my stepdad told me something that he wasn’t wrong about…. even if you both drank the exact same amount, your drunk and she’s not!! And no matter who said or did what, you’re always wrong and she’s always right!! And never be honest about how much money you have or make….cuz then she starts getting ideas about how much of your money oughta be her money!!! Yes a lot of guys will cheat but women are way more devious, heartless and cruel !!
Gary, can you say HYPOCRITE??? Also the “right” & “wrong” thing…I’ve never met a woman that was
“wrong” about ANYTHING (in THEIR mind). They will blame the man EVERY TIME!!! Divorced women
will blame the man 100% EVERY TIME…WRONG ANSWER!!!
just thinking is ok, it’s acting on those thoughts that is the wrong thing to do, I don’t expect my partner to act like h’s gone blind or has never been in an intimate relationship with a woman before he met me, I assume rightly pr wrongly that he has had a life that included encounters with other people & some of them female , I’m just not that insecure I mean, if you want to go, go I was alone before I met you & I’ll be again for however long it takes t5o meet someone else after you’re gone I’m an adult I know how to entertain myself & I also feel there are worst ways to hurt & betray me than mere sexual infidelity but, that’s just me I have never in my life wanted to be with someone who didn’t want me as well & it’s too late start such nonsense at this late stage in the game so, follow your bliss
I totally agree with you. I have to much respect for myself to want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me or disrespect me. There are always plenty of possibilities and new adventures to be explored.
Accept your mother.
Wow! My ex-husband exhibited every one of these behaviors before he cheated on me, then left me to marry her. It was the most devastating period in my life. I guess there is immature narcissism on both sides of the table.
Sandra S, same here! My first husband did every one of those things as well. His flirting and cheating and testing and lying ruined our marriage and seriously damaged my ability to believe in any man. I have long since forgiven him and we are on friendly terms but I have never completely trusted another man since.
Another simp believing in the unicorn that they’re all not like that. That are. It’s how God designed than. Stop chasing unicorns. Even Agnes learned to do that.
Denying sexual intimacy is a favorite of women who DO NOT LIKE themselves so they resort to punishing their husbands by denying him. Their misguided belief is that their husbands are responsible for making them happy. No one can make another happy because happiness comes from within. If a woman was not happy prior to marriage she will not be happy in the marriage until she realizes that she is the only one responsible for her happiness. Once she comes to the realization that she owns her happiness she will find that her marriage will greatly improve. The true love that she desires will surface like magic. Of course, praying to the Holy Trinity helps quite a bit.
some women can absolutely destroy a man, with her tongue…. walk away. NO RUN !
Why do so many men repeatedly do and say hurtful things to their wife, whether he’s drunk OR sober, and expect her to want to have sex afterwards? How is she supposed to be in the mood when her heart is broken?
This sounds like stuff men do lol. I’ve never done this
Real men do NOT put up with any of that crap! Women—when you “shut off” your guy—HE STARTS LOOKING FOR IT” elsewhere! How stupid can you get?
Pussy-whipped low testosterone gimps are just begging for this kind of abuse—always thinking with their “little heads” all the time! They deserve those selfish witches!
Real men—find yourself a REAL woman! Get yourself an Asian wife, treat her with dignity, and she will shower you with love. Find one from a rural area, not a city bar girl. Then you can get on with your life without the petty self-loving games these spoiled American women use to torment you! NO! LOVE DOES NOT HAVE TO HURT!
This timely advice gratis from Feral Tom and his loving Filipina wife…
I tried that. Got an Americanized jezebel spirits in the end to her BBD. They’re no better unless you stay in the Philippines.
Ahhh, a stepford wife….
This is some bad things that some women do, not all. They also do toehr bad things that could be added to the list, like say being dominsating and demandiong to have control.
This is just flat out misogyny. Yes there are some women who do this. Do all women do this no. And while men are making judgmental articles on social media they should take a good look at themselves. The number one thing that I have observed is the big romantic play when you first meet, followed by the pressure for intimacy, using the words if you love me you’ll do this. Then once you have been intimate a few times they expect a woman to become their concubine. When a woman won’t serve him and wants to be treated as an equal partner that’s when these guys move on.
No thanks
Pointing out any negative thing any women do is “hatred of women” good lord…get over yourself.
BINGO!
This article should be 5 things people do in relationships that are cruel, Not women specifically, because I have had men do everyone of those things to me.
How about the mean things men do?
women ofton think a man can do a lot of thing and over rely on men to do everything. women also do not understand that men do under a lot of stress on jobs and responsibilities. aman can not do everything.
I’ve given up on the wife and kids dream. Get along fine with the big girls but not attracted to them. Not interested in older women or women who’ve already had their kids, and so called dating sites are just out for your money.
Jeremy, never give up on love
My ex husband did this after prostate cancer and enjoyed bumping and grinding with other women in front of me and behind my back! I told him if he continued this behavior I would leave him 350 miles from home! He let the drunk bitch lay all over him for an entire football game! I left! 9 people had to find a way home! He and his family and our children in their 30’s thought this was fine! Well 40 years of marriage down the drain! He can have her!
How about another cruel thing that women do?
I call this one “Accepting a date and then saying, “Oh, I was just kidding”. The tactic is also called bait-and-switch that both genders commit against each other. I had this cruelty inflicted on me 45 years ago when I was a college junior. I asked a young lady if she wanted to go to the Junior-Senior Dinner Dance, one of the biggest social events on campus, with me. She said Yes, and a month later, when I was getting ready to buy the tix for both of us, I asked her again to confirm her intentions. She said, “Oh, Shep, I was just kidding.” I walked away angry as a wet hen because I knew that hitting her in anger would result in charges against me for assaulting a fellow student and a trial by fellow students. I decided not to hit the woman, and cried instead.
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How is this any more croulder than what men do all this as well.
I read through all of these issues, and I can truly say that I have NEVER done this to any man. I do however agree with Carolyn, that there may be a few men drawn to this behaviour. To all the men out, please don’t fall for this childish behaviour. And shame on those women who do this. You give the rest of us a bad name.
This is a very short list. Much more can be added. As an example, with the affirmative action, DEI stuff, women are generally treated better than men, employment being a big one. The woman has both “the sugar” and the income, so she has the power and many use it. I remember the old days seeing different media things as moives and TV shows where the poor woman feels so powerless and she yearns for some feeling of suyccess in her life and such. It seems in many ways that these days it is turend around and that is men, but men are called toxic and sucgh and this is no thing of concern for society. Mnay women are bossy and condescending and that is called powerful for women and toxic for men. more leftist BS in action.
How about a number 6 for cruelty against guys? I call this a “Say Yes to a date when you really mean No” and wonder whether it belongs under the topic of stringing men along. Anyway I was a target for this cruel joke played on me when I invited a young woman from my college graduating class–we were juniors–for going w/me to that year’s (1979) primary social event: the Junior-Senior Dinner Dance. She said Yes, and I thought I had a date locked in.
But when the time came to buy the tix, I asked her again to confirm her intention. Her reply was, “Oh, Shep, I was just kidding.” I was so mad, I had two choices: 1. Knock her unconscious to the floor w/my fist and get charged for assaulting a fellow student; or 2. Walk away mad and don’t ask somebody else to go with me. I chose path #2, and decided to take revenge for the insult by making sure her requests for signs and markers were denied (I had the power to say Yay or Nay as an SG (Student Government) Publicity and Elections Committee co-chairperson).
Many women who cheat still deeply love their spouse. They stray because they are seeking something they feel is missing in their marriage.
I enjoyed reading your stories. It is very sad for you to have gone through these bad habits. I have been cheated on too. I will not judge every man by my bad experience. I am a true Christian and l want love band want to give love . Let’s pray to God to guide us and be honest with each other no games or cheating. Learn your partner, don’t size him or her by your past start new and don’t look back.
Thank you, Lord … 65 yrs old and NEVER experienced ANY of this sc*mbaggery despite a “younger” life of promiscuity. Not for nothing, folks, but we attract others of similar ilk with similar values … or the lack thereof. Peace and blessings!
That’s definitely all crude, rude and cruel. Not to mention offensive,
This only goes as far far as you play along or put up with it.
No woman of God is going to marry a man who isn’t a true man of God. Come on, man.
This is brilliant analysis. The “test” you don’t know you are taking leads to the lack of intimacy as punishment for failing the test and that appears to the man as rejection. Talk about wrecking a good relationship for no reason. I happened to me.