You Remind Them Of Their Late Spouse
For a relationship with a widower to be able to grow and thrive, one has to love the new person for who they are, not who they want them to be.
When widowers begin dating again, their frame of reference for what makes a compatible partner is based on the personality, looks, and interests of the late spouse. They think finding someone who looks and acts similarly will heal what hurts them.
Now don’t get us wrong. If you have similar looks or personality traits to the late spouse isn’t exactly a red flag. But you should be troubled if the person tries to change you and mold your relationship into an imitation of the one they had with their late partner.
Luckily, this is an easy sign to identify. The 4 most common things to be aware of are:
- They constantly compare the two of you: This is done through subtle hints about how well their late partner did things and how much better they were.
- They frequently point out physical characteristics that you and the spouse share.
- They want you to dress in their late partner’s clothes or behave like them in public or in the bedroom.
- They continuously take you to the same places where they and their lost loved one ate or vacationed while declining to try new things with you.
