You might be curious whether he’s into you or not. Let’s find out together!

Let’s face this: people tend to say that women are hard to read, but men aren’t that simple either. Knowing for sure whether someone likes you for real or not is pretty difficult, and since we’re fully grown adults, we don’t have time for games.

One of my friends recently told me that she started seeing someone; they’ve been on several dates, but she’s still not sure whether he likes her or not. There are days in a row when they don’t communicate at all (not even a good night text); they do make plans with one another, but they don’t spend time in the bedroom. I don’t know how this seems to you, but I believe there are some mixed feelings here.

Of course, the easiest way to find out whether he’s into you or not is to, well, ask him. However, I know that’s not always an option, so if you’re in the same situation as my friend (Lucy, this one’s for you), keep reading, because I know some surefire ways to discover whether he’s into you or not. Let the love adventure begin!

1. He makes plans

If he’s into you, he’ll make time to see you. Believe me. Not only that, but he’ll also ask you when he can see you again, and he’ll start making plans. It doesn’t have to be something fancy, like a dinner date (though if he wants to treat you, who are you to say no?), but a man who wants to see you again and assures you about their intentions will treat you like a priority.

2. He supports your interests

Let me set this record straight here: if he’s into you, he’ll pay attention to what you say, what you like, and what you don’t. For instance, if you love music, he’ll bring up the conversation when you’re together so that he can listen to you talk about your passion. To show you how interested he is in you, he might suggest going together to a concert or asking you for music recommendations.

This is only an example, but the idea behind it is that when someone’s attracted to you, they will show it and make you feel heard. If things are getting serious between you two, he might even help you take your passion to the next level, whatever your interest might be. These small but important things make a big difference, so pay attention and reciprocate!

3. He checks in during the day

This one is my favorite because it truly shows someone’s intentions. Whether you have something big going on, like a presentation or a major project around your home, or it’s just an ordinary day, he’ll reach out.

This shows you that he pays attention to what you say; he proves he cares about you and that you’re on his mind during the day, and he also wants to know more and maybe even be involved in your life events. Not to mention, reaching out without expecting something (aka a love session) is one of the purest forms of attraction.

4. He takes care of you

If he takes care of you, baby, he’s into you. And he’ll get a bonus point from me if he does this without being asked to. Whether he’s taking you for a walk outside to clear your mind after a stressful day or bringing you medicine or soup for a stuffy nose, it shows you that his feelings are more than sincere.

5. He encourages you

Read this carefully: maybe you work for a job promotion. Maybe you want to have a side hustle, or maybe you just want to learn to cook new things. Whatever your goal is, if he’s into you, he’ll support you and help you reach it.

If he motivates you and encourages you to keep going even if things seem to go south, it shows how much he cares about you, and it’s a sign that you can grow together and make a great team.

6. He compliments you…

…on other things besides your gorgeous appearance. Being told you look good won’t get out of style anytime soon, but if a man also tells you other things he appreciates about you, that’s a real sign he’s into you.

Maybe he likes the way you tilt your head when you chop veggies or appreciates you for being a go-getter, or maybe he likes the way your accent sounds when you pronounce certain things. Whatever he might say, if there’s something specific and completely unrelated to how good you look, he’s falling hard.

7. He doesn’t look at his phone while being with you

First of all, using your phone during a conversation with someone is generally considered impolite, and unless there’s an emergency, nobody should do that when being with people, especially on a date. However, we’re all guilty of it.

With that being said, it’s a fairly good sign that your partner genuinely likes you if he can keep his attention only on you during your time together. He’s with you right now; he’ll take care of whatever is going on in his male group chat later.

8. He’s there for you when times are tough

You can tell he’s into you if he’s there to comfort you when things seem to be going well. Whether you have a bad day or sad news, or if you’ve gotten into a huge fight with someone, he’s there for you. It doesn’t matter if he supports you via text, calls, social media, phone, or when he comes over.

If he shows your support, if he wants to know what happened and what he can do to make you feel better, he’s a keeper, and he’s into you. Who’s the first person you talk to when you feel sad? Your partner, a friend, or a family member? Let us know in the comments below!

9. He understands your POV

This is a huge one, so pay attention to it because it can say a lot about someone’s character. Couples fight, and that’s normal, but what’s important for everyone is to feel listened to, appreciated, and understood.

If you get into a fight with this person you like, whatever the reason may be, and you notice that he wants to understand what happened or what made you sad, they share their POV, and then they listen to yours, this is a good sign.

When someone accepts they made a mistake, apologizes, and doesn’t pretend that they weren’t at fault, it means that they’re honest and they’re willing to put in the work to make the relationship thrive. If that’s your case, I’m glad to tell you that he’s into you.

10. He asks for your opinion

Another important thing is whether they ask for your opinion on certain things or not. Whether they have something big going on and need your advice, or maybe they’re not sure and need guidance, or simply whatever it might be, including you in the conversation is a sign that he’s into you more than you think.

Do you know any other signs that suggest he’s into you? We’re curious to know what you think, so let us know in the comments below! If you want to surprise him with a cute gift for your next date night, here’s a fantastic game that you will both enjoy!

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