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Sorry, Your Husband May Secretly Hate You (7 Signs)

DETANGLE’s Insight

Are you married for more than ten years, but you’re suspicious that your husband might hate you? If the answer is yes, this article is for you! In today’s discussion, I will try to show you some of the most obvious signs that your spouse has changed his attitude towards you, so read along because maybe it’s time to do something about it!

Do you think your husband hates you?

When you get married, you think it’s for life, and you will live happily ever after. And while some people are lucky enough to get even more attached to their spouse, others fail to keep the fire burning. To be honest, every woman wishes for her husband to be romantic and caring for the rest of their lives together.

But what happens when you notice that he isn’t present that much anymore, or worse, he gives you the impression that everything you do is bad and he doesn’t like the person you’ve become? At first, you will be sad and hurt, and you will probably try to understand what happened that led to this bitter end. And then you will probably hope that you’re wrong and this is just a phase that will go away eventually.

In this article, we will clarify this for you, show you what the red flags are, and help you understand if your husband still loves you or not. Let’s see!

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1. He never has time for you (even on his free days)

When you suggest doing something together, he ALWAYS has something more important to do than what you just said, so he does things on his own. In the event that you insist on asking him to make time for the relationship, he gets angry, and even worse, he seems like he is going to make a huge sacrifice and will end up complaining even more afterwards.

When a husband acts in this manner, it is usually because he is not interested in hearing you brag about topics that are not of interest to him. But if you can convince him to start with baby steps and spend at least 30 minutes a day with you without any distraction, that’s a good start! Begin by making a list of things you want to talk about, and make sure you ask him about his interests as well.

2. He avoids you very often!

You’ve been living in the same house for years now, but your husband seems like he is no longer interested in your company. Most of the time, he finds other things to do, or worse, he wants to spend time with his friends more often than usual. And the very moment you’re asking him why he’s behaving like that, BOOM! His nerves are pushed to the limit! and a sudden fight begins.

This kind of behavior is pretty toxic, and nobody should do that to their spouse. If you notice this in your husband’s demeanor, try to persuade him to sit down and have an open conversation like two adults are supposed to have! This might bring you the interior peace you need and let you see if your marriage can be saved or not.

3. He is no longer interested in intimacy

If your husband used to be madly in love with you and thought you were beautiful, but now his interest in you has vanished, it’s a sure sign that he despises you and most likely the way you look. You can’t even remember the last time he complimented you or asked if you wanted to play under the sheets!

Intimacy is everything to most men! Thus, it must raise a major red flag for you when it ceases to exist! And if your intimate life was wonderful before and all of a sudden it starts to fall apart, it is very disturbing. So, it’s a clue that something is wrong if your significant other avoids approaching you, and probably the best course of action is to be open and honest when you talk about your feelings.

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4. Romance has vanished

In the beginning of every relationship, men tend to be more romantic because they want to impress their partner as much as possible. They give their women flowers, make dinner reservations at cool places in the city, and want to spend quality time with them. After a while, your dream came true, and you got married, and you were overjoyed about it. For a couple of years, everything seemed to go swimmingly between you two. But something happened along the way…

If you actually notice a sudden change in your husband’s behavior, that might be a sign that he is no longer interested in you. Of course, this may happen to any loving couple because romance tends to fade with time, but that doesn’t mean it has to end just because you’ve been together for more than ten years.

Therefore, if you don’t feel okay anymore in your marriage, it is obvious that maybe something has to be changed if your husband isn’t making an effort to do the things that first made you fall in love with him.

Communication is the key! Try to talk to him as much as possible to discover the root of the problem and how you can fix it. Together!

5. He makes rude comments about you and your day-to-day actions

Let’s picture this situation: What if your husband starts offending you or, worse, gossiping about you behind your back and starts throwing phrases like “No one expects you to do anything about this!” or “You’re a disaster; I’m not sure why I bother explaining; you won’t get it anyway!” These things can hurt a person’s feelings very easily, especially if they come from your husband’s mouth.

If he’s been doing this for a while now, he probably does it with other people too! This translates to him no longer being interested in your person; additionally, he regards you as insignificant, which is why he is “allowed” to make fun of you whenever the opportunity arises.

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6. When you spend time together, he doesn’t seem very engaged in the activity

If your husband still spends time with you when you ask him to, but he doesn’t seem to have fun, that’s another issue! For some people, spending time together means that you eventually end up being intimate. For example, if your husband and you sit in your bedroom and he stops showing affection and doesn’t even try to initiate intimacy, then it clearly shows that he is no longer interested in you physically.

However, if your normally cheerful husband stops cracking jokes or acting silly and you are the one acting clownish instead, it’s very likely he doesn’t really enjoy your company, which is one of the warning signs he might not be attracted to you anymore.

7. He never misses you when you’re gone!

You were away visiting family in another city for nearly two weeks. You get home, and while you’re super excited to see and kiss your husband, he doesn’t even react when you try to approach him after you enter the door. And he glances at you more with annoyance and something like “Ugh, she came home to invade my personal space!” than with welcome.

Just like you would be if he had been away from town for a few days, you assumed that he would be happy to see you. In this case, your presence might affect him and put him in a position where he has to pretend he is OK with you being around again.

Bottom line

Everybody says that women have the 7th sense and that our intuition is one of a kind. And it’s true! Every time we feel like there is something wrong in our relationship or marriage, we have a strong reason to believe that. In most cases, it proves to be exactly as we thought. But, before you jump to conclusions, have a serious discussion with your husband or partner to find out what’s wrong and why they’ve suddenly changed their attitude.

Do you agree with these warning signs? Have you ever been through a rough patch in your marriage? Tell us in the comments. We love hearing from our readers!

…psst! And before closing the page, make sure you also check out this informative article as well!

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