5. Schooling and rules for the kids
Even if you love your grandchildren, and you definitely want to see them happy, don’t be nosy about their education. Your son and daughter-in-law may have other rules that they want to implement in their family, and if you come with unsolicited advice, you will end up being seen as the bad person.
Some parents choose homeschooling, while others want preschool, and others want private lessons after school. Even if this sounds like a waste of money to you, don’t tell them that! In the end, you should be there to support them, not to argue about how they chose to educate your grandchildren.
Regarding your time spent with them, if you have them over the weekend or during the summer vacation and your daughter-in-law instructs you not to give them too much chocolate or to buy more toys because they already have a full drawer at home, listen to her. After all, she is their mother!
Mind your own business, no advice unless asked for it, if either one starts bad mouthing each other do not take sides. I have been very lucky I get along with all my in laws.
I love my oldest sons wife. She is awesome and she and my son are good for each other. I don’t get involved with their marriage as it is none of my business. I do not like my youngest sons wife at all. He married her and he has to live with her. I am cordial to her. Again their marriage is none of my business. As long as my so. Is happy that is all that mTtersreally matters.
I’m fortunate to love my in-laws and they love me. Also, one of my daughter in-laws is heaven sent. The second daughter in-law is another story. It started out well until my son started changing for the worse. He went from being responsible, reliable, in-touch, relatable, respectful and loving to missing work, over drinking, not preparing for the week, disrespecting, stand offish, borrowing money, unreliable. He and she are having these knock down drag out fights. I tried to advise but that back fired on me and now I’m the bad guy. So now I’m staying out of the way as much as possible. Only just the other day, I gave some advice concerning his drinking and he took offense to it. I want to stay my distance but I don’t want to give the impression that I don’t care. I’m going to continue praying.