4. Weight loss after the pregnancy
Oh, that’s like walking on eggshells, because nobody ever wanted to discuss their weight! It’s normal that during or after the pregnancy, your daughter-in-law may gain a tad of weight, but that doesn’t mean she wants to talk about it. Even if you consider yourself part of the family and you feel like it’s OK to talk about delicate stuff, don’t give her tips about calorie deficits or how to seek out a dietitian.
To protect the relationship between the two of you or even show her support in this matter, it’s best to say nothing and avoid the topic completely. And if you want to take a closer look and have a light read about this topic, I am going to recommend you this great book that’s therapist-approved. You can find it in both a Kindle and paperback edition.
Mind your own business, no advice unless asked for it, if either one starts bad mouthing each other do not take sides. I have been very lucky I get along with all my in laws.
I love my oldest sons wife. She is awesome and she and my son are good for each other. I don’t get involved with their marriage as it is none of my business. I do not like my youngest sons wife at all. He married her and he has to live with her. I am cordial to her. Again their marriage is none of my business. As long as my so. Is happy that is all that mTtersreally matters.
I’m fortunate to love my in-laws and they love me. Also, one of my daughter in-laws is heaven sent. The second daughter in-law is another story. It started out well until my son started changing for the worse. He went from being responsible, reliable, in-touch, relatable, respectful and loving to missing work, over drinking, not preparing for the week, disrespecting, stand offish, borrowing money, unreliable. He and she are having these knock down drag out fights. I tried to advise but that back fired on me and now I’m the bad guy. So now I’m staying out of the way as much as possible. Only just the other day, I gave some advice concerning his drinking and he took offense to it. I want to stay my distance but I don’t want to give the impression that I don’t care. I’m going to continue praying.