7. Hints to move closer to your place
Of all the topics you can discuss, avoid this one at all costs, even if you miss your son because they chose to move to another country. Our children’s decisions are not always within our control. Who knows—maybe they wanted a better career and the opportunity came overseas, or they simply wanted to make a change.
This also applies when they live in the same town as you but are a long distance away. In this century of continuously evolving technology, I am sure you can find a lot of ways to communicate with them. And when things are right, you can always visit them; I am sure they will be happy to see you too!
Bottom line
I hope you will find this article helpful! And even if in this moment the relationship between you and your daughter-in-law is a bit difficult, you can always work things out. Assure her that you will be there for them no matter what, and if they want your help, they can only ask for it. After all, you’re family to each other!
Embrace your feelings and try to enjoy every moment you spend in her company, and eventually you will grow closer together.
To stay on the same page, you might be interested in reading this one about conflicts and how to deal with them if they are particularly distressing.
Mind your own business, no advice unless asked for it, if either one starts bad mouthing each other do not take sides. I have been very lucky I get along with all my in laws.
I love my oldest sons wife. She is awesome and she and my son are good for each other. I don’t get involved with their marriage as it is none of my business. I do not like my youngest sons wife at all. He married her and he has to live with her. I am cordial to her. Again their marriage is none of my business. As long as my so. Is happy that is all that mTtersreally matters.
I’m fortunate to love my in-laws and they love me. Also, one of my daughter in-laws is heaven sent. The second daughter in-law is another story. It started out well until my son started changing for the worse. He went from being responsible, reliable, in-touch, relatable, respectful and loving to missing work, over drinking, not preparing for the week, disrespecting, stand offish, borrowing money, unreliable. He and she are having these knock down drag out fights. I tried to advise but that back fired on me and now I’m the bad guy. So now I’m staying out of the way as much as possible. Only just the other day, I gave some advice concerning his drinking and he took offense to it. I want to stay my distance but I don’t want to give the impression that I don’t care. I’m going to continue praying.