Taboo relationship practice: Sleeping in separate beds
It’s a popular opinion that to have a healthy connection, you MUST spend the night spooning your partner in bed, especially if you live together. But the world is slowly discovering that that’s actually false.
If you’re the type of person who needs some space at night to roll around and sleep like a starfish, that’s ok. Or you might be bleary-eyed from being kept awake all night by a snoring partner, and that’s not great for your health. So it makes perfect sense to sleep separately.
Many couples are having what’s jokingly called a “sleep divorce,” where they sleep separately. For these people, having that private space enhances their relationship and quality of sleep. So, if this works for you and your spouse, grab your pillows and go.
And you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. Sleeping in separate beds or bedrooms is only a concern due to something negative.
If you’re sleeping in separate bedrooms because you don’t want to be intimate with your loved one, for instance, then you have a problem, says a clinical psychologist.
But what if it’s mutually agreeable? Does sleeping separately make you both satisfied? If it’s strengthening your bond, then it’s NOT taboo.
I find your article interesting. I am male age 56 my wife has decided that she is polygamous after 16 years of marriage. I am in shock and my world is turned upside down at this very moment. The same thing happened to my first marriage and we were married for 15 years. I am trying to make sense of it all. I have trust issues and I have a temper that I need to get into check. I am a Disabled Veteran and I am on disability so I don’t work but I do all of the house work and outside work. I also have ED so we have sex but without penetration. I was brought up as a Lutheran Christian and divorce is not an option but I did tell her that I don’t want our marriage to end and that if polyamory is the only option that I would consider it even though it goes against my beliefs. I am a jealous person as well. I am hoping you might have some information on this subject matter and that makes it might help me understand what I am going through. I have spiced things up in the bedroom and I am getting help from my Dr and will see a urologist to see if there is anything that can be done to help in that area. I am able to orgasm and I am able to satisfy my wife with other means that are very kinky and taboo. The last few months we have been fighting a lot she is constantly online chatting with men and being sexual she has lost 4 jobs in 6 months. I am confused hurt and feel disrespected. Any help would be greatly appreciated