Imagine meeting with an engaged couple just a few weeks before they tie the knot. They enthusiastically describe how they met, how their first date was, and how their relationship developed. The wife-to-be cheerfully describes how her soon-to-be husband set up a perfect romantic evening with flowers and a nice dinner so he could pop the big question.
Then they take you by surprise by saying, “We want to get married, then have some children. At first, we’ll have a lot of love to share with each other. Then we’ll start fighting and hating each other. After a few years, we’ll get a divorce.”
Who would get married with the intention of getting a divorce? Of course, this is a rhetorical question. And yet, there are an alarming number of divorces occurring nowadays. Lots of people are really affected by divorce, whether they are the ones who’ve divorced or they have felt the pain of a parent divorcing.
While divorce is common, I’m pretty sure that most of it could be avoided, and I’m going to show you why I think this way.
First of all, here’s something you may want to keep in mind: Every difficult behavior begins with believing a lie. Our world, with its culture, promotes many deceptions that can quickly end up destroying a marriage.
Without further ado, here are seven of them!
I’ve been married 57 years to the love of my life. We met on a blind dinner date. Why does my marriage work? I make the major decisions with her approval. One person is dominant in a marriage. It could be either. Some people are good at decision making while others are not. She was and still is “my dream girl.” We are now in our 80’s and I’d remarry her again in an instant. She was so cute my parents thought she was marrying me for my money, not that I had so much. I’m a strong personality and she is laid back. Knowing yourself is the best way to find a mate. Don’t overlook the others faults or your own. Everyone has them and if they are glaring don’t fool yourself into believing that it will work out. People don’t change. Always remember the reasons you married and appreciate one another. She was and still is my dream girl!
First I must congratulate you and your wife on your union , 57 years is a blessing to grow with someone you truly love. . I been with my spouse almost 30 years and marriage isn’t easy but we both learn to compromise if a problem arise. Just last year in a social media group I was asked what if I find out after all these years together with my spouse and I find out there was infidelity. I was ask would I stay in the marriage or would I dissolve the marriage . What would you do if you were in that situation, would you leave the 57 years in the past or would you fight for your marriage.