Lie #3: “My mistake (or my spouse’s mistake) is so big that I need to get a divorce.”
Mistakes hurt in a marriage, especially when it comes to lying or cheating. But the truth is that everything can be fixed if both you and your spouse are willing to try for the better. As it’s written in the Bible, forgive one another, just as God has forgiven us.
But, you may ask, doesn’t Matthew 19:9 say that the Lord Jesus allows divorce as long as the root issue is adultery? Yes, it actually does—when there’s an extended period of unrepentance. Still, that passage never suggests that God does demand a divorce.
When an affair affects the marriage, we should seek to save it and, therefore, illustrate the unfathomable forgiveness of God. The pastor of the church I go to once said to me that some of the greatest life messages are the marriages of people who’ve repented of adultery and spouses who’ve forgiven them.
I’ve been married 57 years to the love of my life. We met on a blind dinner date. Why does my marriage work? I make the major decisions with her approval. One person is dominant in a marriage. It could be either. Some people are good at decision making while others are not. She was and still is “my dream girl.” We are now in our 80’s and I’d remarry her again in an instant. She was so cute my parents thought she was marrying me for my money, not that I had so much. I’m a strong personality and she is laid back. Knowing yourself is the best way to find a mate. Don’t overlook the others faults or your own. Everyone has them and if they are glaring don’t fool yourself into believing that it will work out. People don’t change. Always remember the reasons you married and appreciate one another. She was and still is my dream girl!
First I must congratulate you and your wife on your union , 57 years is a blessing to grow with someone you truly love. . I been with my spouse almost 30 years and marriage isn’t easy but we both learn to compromise if a problem arise. Just last year in a social media group I was asked what if I find out after all these years together with my spouse and I find out there was infidelity. I was ask would I stay in the marriage or would I dissolve the marriage . What would you do if you were in that situation, would you leave the 57 years in the past or would you fight for your marriage.