Lie #2: “My happiness is the most important thing.”
I’ve heard many people say, “God just wants me to be happy. I have to do this,” meaning they try to justify breaking up their marriages. In fact, most people think this way nowadays. But according to God’s Word, a spouse’s personal fulfillment and individuality aren’t the purpose of marriage.
As the Bible says in Colossians 3:17, no matter what you do, in word or deed, do it all for the glory of God. While every part of creation is to praise the name of the Lord Jesus, mankind was made in God’s very image. Therefore, through marriage, spouses have to reflect His character.
A marriage is always bound to have its hard moments, but you have to be there for each other and at least try. Every marriage has conflict. Every marriage knows unhappiness. But everyone can be happy in their marriage by not forgetting God’s purposes.
I’ve been married 57 years to the love of my life. We met on a blind dinner date. Why does my marriage work? I make the major decisions with her approval. One person is dominant in a marriage. It could be either. Some people are good at decision making while others are not. She was and still is “my dream girl.” We are now in our 80’s and I’d remarry her again in an instant. She was so cute my parents thought she was marrying me for my money, not that I had so much. I’m a strong personality and she is laid back. Knowing yourself is the best way to find a mate. Don’t overlook the others faults or your own. Everyone has them and if they are glaring don’t fool yourself into believing that it will work out. People don’t change. Always remember the reasons you married and appreciate one another. She was and still is my dream girl!
First I must congratulate you and your wife on your union , 57 years is a blessing to grow with someone you truly love. . I been with my spouse almost 30 years and marriage isn’t easy but we both learn to compromise if a problem arise. Just last year in a social media group I was asked what if I find out after all these years together with my spouse and I find out there was infidelity. I was ask would I stay in the marriage or would I dissolve the marriage . What would you do if you were in that situation, would you leave the 57 years in the past or would you fight for your marriage.