Lie #7: “There’s no hope for my marriage—it can’t be fixed.”
This may be the most destructive lie of all. A lot of marriages end because the partners aren’t willing to try harder. Unfortunately, this seems to happen a lot for younger generations who’re getting married.
In a dying marriage, it takes two willing parties to save the relationship. If just one partner believes there’s no other solution but divorce, the other may push themselves to the limit trying to fix the relationship, but that won’t be enough.
If you begin to think that there’s no hope for my marriage, you’ve already made the decision to do nothing to save it; therefore, the issues and disagreements won’t go away.
Talk to each other and try to figure out what exactly stops your marriage from working. Maybe consider trying couple therapy, which can be extremely beneficial if both you and your spouse want the same thing: to make things between you two work out.
Here’s a book that may help you and your spouse save your marriage.
You may also want to read Should Couples Fight About These 4 Things? YES- Here’s Why.
I’ve been married 57 years to the love of my life. We met on a blind dinner date. Why does my marriage work? I make the major decisions with her approval. One person is dominant in a marriage. It could be either. Some people are good at decision making while others are not. She was and still is “my dream girl.” We are now in our 80’s and I’d remarry her again in an instant. She was so cute my parents thought she was marrying me for my money, not that I had so much. I’m a strong personality and she is laid back. Knowing yourself is the best way to find a mate. Don’t overlook the others faults or your own. Everyone has them and if they are glaring don’t fool yourself into believing that it will work out. People don’t change. Always remember the reasons you married and appreciate one another. She was and still is my dream girl!
First I must congratulate you and your wife on your union , 57 years is a blessing to grow with someone you truly love. . I been with my spouse almost 30 years and marriage isn’t easy but we both learn to compromise if a problem arise. Just last year in a social media group I was asked what if I find out after all these years together with my spouse and I find out there was infidelity. I was ask would I stay in the marriage or would I dissolve the marriage . What would you do if you were in that situation, would you leave the 57 years in the past or would you fight for your marriage.