Lie #5: “I married the wrong person.”
Anyone we may marry could obviously be a little bit wrong for us. Nobody expects bliss every day. We also know (or at least we should) that perfection is only in books and movies. However, there are couples who display such heightened rage, deep-seated incompatibility, and disappointment that we can’t help but conclude that something else is at play: each partner seems to have married the wrong person.
Yet, it’s important to figure out what “I’ve ended up marrying the wrong person” means for you. Is it because you two fight a lot? You feel like your spouse doesn’t understand you. Because, in most cases, these situations may indicate some communication issues that can be tackled.
However, if your spouse is no longer the person you married, you may want to have a serious discussion to know if it’s worth keeping going.
I’ve been married 57 years to the love of my life. We met on a blind dinner date. Why does my marriage work? I make the major decisions with her approval. One person is dominant in a marriage. It could be either. Some people are good at decision making while others are not. She was and still is “my dream girl.” We are now in our 80’s and I’d remarry her again in an instant. She was so cute my parents thought she was marrying me for my money, not that I had so much. I’m a strong personality and she is laid back. Knowing yourself is the best way to find a mate. Don’t overlook the others faults or your own. Everyone has them and if they are glaring don’t fool yourself into believing that it will work out. People don’t change. Always remember the reasons you married and appreciate one another. She was and still is my dream girl!
First I must congratulate you and your wife on your union , 57 years is a blessing to grow with someone you truly love. . I been with my spouse almost 30 years and marriage isn’t easy but we both learn to compromise if a problem arise. Just last year in a social media group I was asked what if I find out after all these years together with my spouse and I find out there was infidelity. I was ask would I stay in the marriage or would I dissolve the marriage . What would you do if you were in that situation, would you leave the 57 years in the past or would you fight for your marriage.